“First and foremost, we salute Dave and Linda Godly who facilitated the course. At no time did they make us feel inferior because we hadn’t attained perfection. Freely sharing their own trials and shortcomings with us made us realise that we all fall short, no matter how long we’ve been married, or how many courses we attend. Marriage is an ongoing road to discovery.
Married for 14 years, it’s a second marriage for both of us. We started off with three adult children living at home, and we’re now at the stage when it’s just the two of us. Realising that there were a lot of adjustments to be made, we thought the Marriage Course would be a good exercise.
What a wonderful experience! From the first meal and introductions, to the gentle nature of handling sensitive topics, the facilitators made themselves available at all times, and were prepared to say, ‘we don’t have all the answers, we’re still a work in progress’.
Probably the biggest thing we took home was ‘marriage time’. Our working together doesn’t mean quality time, and learning to take time out for each other, and to put the other first, was a huge eye-opener. We also didn’t realise how different our upbringings were, until we actually had to face it head on. This opened a new door for us.
There were also issues that we’d swept under the carpet, and getting them out into the open was really refreshing, helping us to understand where the other person was coming from.
Not only would we recommend the course for married couples, but for those starting out, so that they can also learn to ‘fight without drawing blood’.”